How much should you reveal to your co-workers
Aug 17, 2026 · 25m
Summary
Harvard professor Leslie John discusses her book *Revealing*, exploring how strategic self-disclosure builds trust and likability. She analyzes the 1997 Miss Universe final to illustrate the "Goldilocks principle" of sharing just enough information. John also presents research showing that expressive writing and affect labeling improve mental and physical health, while counterintuitively, strong privacy assurances can inhibit honesty.
Topics discussed
The Goldilocks Principle: Lessons from the 1997 Miss Universe Final
Sponsor Message: HubSpot
Why Revealing Sensitive Information Builds Trust and Likability
Classroom Experiment: The Power of Vulnerable Conversation
The Counterintuitive Effect of Privacy Assurances on Disclosure
Sponsor Messages: Marketing School and FSB
Expressive Writing and Physical Health Benefits
Affect Labelling: Reducing Anxiety by Naming Emotions
How Discussing Difficult Topics Increases Happiness
The 'How Bad Are You?' Study: Humor and Disclosure
Conclusion and Promotion of the Nudge Vaults
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