You Can Get Through It: How to Handle the Hardest Things That Will Ever Happen to You | Dr. Lucy Hone
Summary
Dan Harris interviews Dr. Lucy Hohn about her new book, *How Will I Ever Get Through This?*, which offers evidence-based tools for navigating both death and "living losses." Drawing from her tragic loss of a daughter, Hohn debunks the five stages of grief, emphasizing that resilience involves acceptance, self-compassion, and rebuilding one’s identity. She discusses practical strategies for managing exhaustion, finding support, and rediscovering joy through ordinary, daily actions.
Topics discussed
Introduction: Anxiety, transitions, and setbacks
Dr. Lucy Hohn's personal tragedy and resilience research
Defining BFTs: Big F***ing Things and life transitions
Non-death losses and the spectrum of grief
Shattered assumptive worlds and identity crisis
Common questions: Exhaustion, loneliness, and hope
Busting myths: The five stages of grief are not universal
Sponsors: Dan Harris Newsletter and Rosetta Stone
Self-compassion and the universality of suffering
Physical symptoms of grief and acceptance
Finding support: 3am people and practical help
The role of pets and the loneliness of grief
Types of support: Emotional vs. instrumental grievers
Rebuilding identity: What is still true?
Sponsors: Ironwall, BetterHelp, and Wayfair
Buddhism, impermanence, and healthy attachment
Human adaptability and learning to live with uncertainty
Sponsors: Quince and Bombas
Ordinary actions and the magic of small steps
Rediscovering joy and living alongside grief
Practicing self-kindness and lowering the bar
Cognitive distortions and reading situations accurately
Ending grief disenfranchisement and book details
Conclusion and 10% Happier app promotion
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