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646: The Secret of My Death

Sep 14, 2026 · 1h 7m

Summary

This episode explores the "forensics of the dead" through three stories about people trying to understand a death. Nadia Bowers shares her memoir *Dear Dealer*, recounting her grief and anger toward the drug dealer who killed her sister, Sasha. Dave Marr recounts waking from a coma to read the eulogies friends posted on his Facebook page, revealing a disconnect between his self-image and how others remembered him. The final story follows a man who attends a funeral for a stranger and attempts to piece together the deceased's life from limited clues.

Topics discussed

Con Edison Sponsor and Content Warning Childhood Story: The Brick and the Teeter-Totter Show Introduction and Theme Act 1: Nadia Bowers' Letter to Her Sister's Dealer Book Promotion: Dear Dealer Squarespace Sponsor Capital One Sponsor and Episode Recap Act 2: The Living Dave Marr and Facebook Eulogies Podcast Promotion: This Is Your Afterlife Act 3: Funeral for a Stranger Production Credits Life Partner Bonus Episode and Call to Action Next Week Preview Schwab Podcast Sponsor
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