#880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting Love
Summary
Tim Ferriss compiles advice from experts like Esther Perel, Brené Brown, and Dr. Sue Johnson on sustaining long-term relationships. The episode covers practical strategies such as monthly "life dinners," distinguishing facts from stories, and using humor to de-escalate conflict. Guests also discuss the concept of "normal marital hatred" and the importance of emotional repair and vulnerability in maintaining intimacy.
Topics discussed
Introduction: Staying close through conflict and change
Esther Perel on intimacy, touch, and the art of listening
Terry Reel on repair, humor, and avoiding Gottman's Four Horsemen
The 80-20 rule and family-focused systems
Brad Feld on monthly 'Life Dinners' for relationship maintenance
Brad Feld on Conscious Candor: Facts vs. Stories
Sheila Heen on difficult conversations and stepping outside the argument
Sponsor Break: 8Sleep Pod
Dr. Sue Johnson on Hold Me Tight conversations and attachment
Terry Reel on Normal Marital Hatred and repair skills
Diana Chapman on evolving relationships and honoring polarity
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