1365: Strange Estrangement from Down in the Basement | Feedback Friday
Summary
Jordan and Gabe address a listener’s brother-in-law, Tommy, who is being financially and emotionally exploited by his manipulative girlfriend, Jane, while his parents enable the toxic dynamic out of fear. The hosts discuss the dangers of unlicensed therapy and isolation, advising the listener to support the parents in setting boundaries rather than trying to save Tommy directly. They then counsel a wife whose husband works excessive hours, explaining that her loneliness stems from a mismatch in love languages and suggesting she broaden her definition of care to appreciate his provision.
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