Savage Love Episode 1039
Summary
Dan Savage opens the show by discussing the Cornell University gang rape, arguing that straight men’s failure to respect women’s bodily autonomy explains why heterosexual women do not engage in anonymous sex like gay men. He then advises a caller who cheated on his wife due to a lack of sexual attraction, suggesting they either divorce or renegotiate their commitment to an open relationship. A second caller discovers her supportive husband secretly recorded their private moments for ten months, prompting Dan to advise her to consider leaving or transitioning to a low-conflict co-parenting a…
Topics discussed
Intro: Gay bathhouses and straight men's jealousy
Cornell case: Why women are treated as property
The 'Anon Loads' experiment and male equality
Advice: Take your time with sex in your 20s
Sponsorships and show promotion
Letter: Straight man questioning his sexuality and marriage
Dan's response: Renegotiate terms or divorce
Call: Man with webbed toes and foot fetish experiences
Sponsor: Squarespace
Letter: Husband secretly recorded wife's masturbation
Dan's response: Divorce due to profound betrayal
Sponsor: Helix Sleep
Interview: Dr. Ina Park on HSV-2 testing and stigma
Sponsor: Quince
Call: Moving in with boyfriend and rent vs. equity
Listener feedback: Teeth in sex and other comments
Outro and credits
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