Middle Men Middle Men

I Lived Straight, Then Gay. Then I Landed in the Middle.

Jul 14, 2026 · 13m

Summary

Host Brendan shares his journey from a closeted youth to an out gay man, and finally to a "middle" identity in his 40s. He discusses the isolation of straddling straight and gay worlds, particularly regarding hobbies like surfing and music. This experience inspired him to launch Middlemen, a podcast and community for men who don't fit neatly into societal sexual boxes.

Topics discussed

Introduction: The hidden struggle of men in the middle Growing up closeted in the 80s and 90s Coming out and immersing in gay culture Feeling disconnected from both gay and straight worlds Rediscovering passions and attraction to women The frustration of living a double life Creating the Middlemen podcast and community
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