How Do I Help My Boss Without Doing Their Job For Them?
Summary
Executive coach Muriel Wilkins guides Kate, a senior leader frustrated by a mismatched dynamic with her manager. They uncover that Kate’s frustration stems from differing definitions of "help," with Kate wanting strategic partnership while her boss seeks execution support. The session focuses on aligning expectations by clarifying the "how" of their collaboration and evaluating whether the role’s trade-offs align with Kate’s professional goals.
Topics discussed
Intro: Evolve immersion and Coaching Real podcast
Kate's background and move to a new company
Strained relationship with new boss and lack of follow-through
Analyzing role mismatch: Helper vs. Doer expectations
Sponsors: Cozy Earth and Alma therapy directory
Identifying the 'How' gap and the 'Help Me Help You' moment
Exploring resistance and defining what is helpful to the boss
Strategies for aligning on communication and support preferences
Sponsors: Stamps.com and NetSuite
Clarifying personal 'Whys' vs 'Why Nots' for decision making
Action plan: Testing hypotheses and committing to next steps
Conclusion: Navigating tradeoffs and show credits
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